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Grace Bible Church

4000 E. Collins Rd.   P.O. Box #3762   Gillette, WY  82717   (307) 686-1516

 

- Preaching the Living WORD through the Written WORD - 2 Tim 4;:2 -

 

 

 

(2014 GBC THEME)

“CHRISTIAN HOME - 6”

(Pr 6:16-19) 3/9/14

Grace Bible Church, Gillette, Wyoming

Pastor Daryl Hilbert

 

I.     TRAINING OF CHILDREN

 

A.    Example of Character to Be Rewarded: Wisdom

B.    Example of Character to Be Corrected: Lying

1.     Since a Christian home is based upon the promises of a truthful and faithful God, lying is not becoming in a Christian home (Pr 17:7). Lying must be dealt with.

2.     Lying here is the Heb word rq,v, sheqer which carries the significance of breaking a promise or a covenant.

3.     God is a truthful and faithful God who cannot lie or break a covenant, a promise, or His word (Ps 89:33-34; Num 23:19).

4.     If we desire to know what displeases the Lord in our lives and homes, lying is on the top of the list (Pr 6:16-19; Pr 12:22).

5.     Lying is so devastating because it can either lead to or reveal deeper sins of the heart (Pr 10:18; 26:28).

6.     We inevitably will spare our children greater discipline from the Lord (Pr 12:19; Pr 19:9). A Christian home is to be based on the truth of the Word of God (1Th 2:13). Therefore truthfulness in the home must be preserved at all costs.

a)    When regard for truth has been broken down or even slightly weakened, all things will remain doubtful. Augustine.

 

II.    DISCIPLINE OF CHILDREN

 

A.    Parental Attitudes Towards Discipline

1.     Do not correct out of uncontrolled anger (Pr 28:15-16; Eph 6:4; Pr 29:2).

2.     Any correction should be done through “love” (chesed - living-kindness and/or loyalty, Pr 20:28; 21:21; 20:6).

3.     Pleasant words promote instruction (Pr 16:21-24).

4.     Always keep in view your child’s great potential in Christ (Phil 1:6; 4:13).

B.    Parental Actions of Discipline

1.     Look into your children’s lives (Pr 25:2)

2.     Teach and build character that is deficient in your child (Pr 25:4).

3.     Teach children to react to you spirit (Pr 20:8).

4.     Correct a problem of the “will” not the “mind” (cf. Pr 29:19).

5.     Correction must be firm and consistent (Pr 29:15).

6.     Discipline does not always have to be corporal (bodily and physical) punishment.

a)    It can be a firm “No!”

b)    It can be an explanation why not.

c)     It can be a warning of future disciplines

d)    It can be a loss of favorite activities.

e)     It can be quiet time, sitting on a chair quietly, etc.

f)     It can be a loss of freedoms.

g)     It can be a postponement of a future freedom.

7.     Correction can include physical discipline (Pr 22:15; 13:24; 29:15).

a)    A “rod” (jb,ve shābet cf. tn<[,v.mi mēsheneth - staff) is a Shepherd’s club, a warrior’s club, laborer’s instrument. 

b)    A rod was a length of tree limb or bush stock, employed at first for support or weapon. It was fashioned distinctively for individual use, straight with a thick end [perhaps very much like walking sticks or walking canes] or with the shepherd’s crook.

(1)   It was used for  beating cumin (Isa 28:27, “club”, the synonymous Heb word for “rod” is hJ'm; mattah),

(2)   as a weapon (2Sam 23:21, “club”),

(3)   and as a shepherd's implement either  to muster or count sheep (Lev 27:32; Ezek 20:37),

(4)   In Psa 23:4 it is used metaphorically of the Lord's protection of his servant as he walks in paths of righteousness.

c)     The rod was also used as an instrument for either remedial or penal punishment.

(1)   As a  corrective instrument it was used for a slave (Exo 21:20),

Ex 21:20 "If a man strikes his male or female slave with a rod and he dies at his hand, he shall be punished.

(2)   It was suggested for the back of a fool (Pr 10:13; Pr  26:3),

(3)   It was used for a disobedient child (Pr 13:24; Pr 22:15; Pr 29:15). In Proverbs, the rod was both literal and figurative as a symbol of discipline. Failure to correct and discipline children, could actually lead to a son or daughter’s death. (De 21:18-21 cf. Pr 19:18; 23:13-14).

(4)   It was used with reference to the Lord’s righteous King who will smite the  wicked with the "rod" of His mouth (Word) in judgment (Isa 11:4).

d)    Practical application of the board of education

(1)   First explain which rule was broken and remind them of the discipline.

(2)   Explain that in order to be a good parent, you have to obey God and follow through with discipline.

(3)   Never spank out of uncontrolled anger. Consider praying before spanking. Limit yourself to a few spanks.

(4)   The hand is probably the best method of spanking, though paddles of some sort could be used for bigger children.

(5)   Spank children where God has provided the most padding (seat of the pants). Test your spank on yourself so that you are not brutal or abusive.

(6)   Spank with enough pressure for it to be a future deterrent for the child.

(7)   Afterward the spanking, hug them and tell them you still love them. Encourage and reinforce them to comply with correct behavior, so that this discipline does not have to be repeated.

(8)   Teach your child to say, “I was wrong for _________, would you forgive me?” Verbally assure them of forgiveness.

(9)   When done correctly, spanking helps children grow in respect, obedience, and self-control. It is not child abuse. When done incorrectly, spanking can result in anger and bitterness. It can harm children emotionally and physically, and may be child abuse.

 

III.  OBSERVATIONS AND APPLICATIONS

 

A.    Full Quiver: Ps 127:3-5 speaks of the responsibility of parents raising their children so that they can make an impact in the world. Children are like arrows, in that they can be sent out to influence the world for God. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full.

B.    Next Faithful Spiritual Leader: We do not know if the Lord will raise up our children to be the next Billy Graham or Ruth Graham. But the backbone of the church has always been faithful Christians in the home, in the church, and in the world, influencing those around them for God. So we must raise our children to be the next faithful spiritual leaders.

C.    Straight arrow: Each arrow has its own particular bend. Each arrow must be shaped and bent straight so that it will fly true. Children are similar to arrows that must be corrected and conformed to the image of Christ. Each child has their own particular bend that must be wisely and prayerfully corrected. Then they will fly true and make their mark for God.