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(2014 GBC THEME) “CHRISTIAN HOME -
6” (Pr 6:16-19) 3/9/14 Grace Bible Church,
Gillette, Wyoming Pastor Daryl Hilbert I. TRAINING OF CHILDREN A. Example of Character to Be
Rewarded: Wisdom B. Example of Character to Be Corrected:
Lying 1. Since
a Christian home is based upon the promises of a truthful and faithful God,
lying is not becoming in a Christian home (Pr 17:7). Lying must
be dealt with. 2. Lying here is the Heb word rq,v, sheqer which carries the significance of breaking a
promise or a covenant. 3. God is a truthful and faithful God who
cannot lie or break a covenant, a promise, or His word (Ps 89:33-34; Num
23:19). 4. If we desire to know what displeases the
Lord in our lives and homes, lying is on the top of
the list (Pr 6:16-19; Pr 12:22). 5. Lying is so devastating because it can
either lead to or reveal deeper sins of the heart (Pr 10:18; 26:28). 6. We inevitably will spare our children
greater discipline from the Lord (Pr 12:19; Pr 19:9). A Christian home is to be based on the truth of the Word of God (1Th 2:13). Therefore truthfulness in the home must be preserved at
all costs. a) When regard for truth has been broken down
or even slightly weakened,
all things will remain doubtful. Augustine. II. DISCIPLINE
OF CHILDREN A. Parental Attitudes Towards
Discipline 1. Do not
correct out of uncontrolled anger (Pr 28:15-16; Eph 6:4; Pr 29:2). 2. Any correction should
be done through “love” (chesed -
living-kindness and/or loyalty, Pr 20:28; 21:21; 20:6). 3. Pleasant words promote instruction (Pr
16:21-24). 4. Always keep in view your child’s great
potential in Christ (Phil 1:6; 4:13). B. Parental Actions of
Discipline 1. Look
into your children’s lives (Pr 25:2) 2. Teach
and build character that is deficient in your child (Pr 25:4). 3. Teach
children to react to you spirit (Pr 20:8). 4. Correct a problem of the “will” not the
“mind” (cf. Pr 29:19). 5. Correction must be firm and consistent
(Pr 29:15). 6. Discipline does not always have to be
corporal (bodily and physical) punishment. a) It can be
a firm “No!” b) It can be an explanation why not. c) It can be a warning of future disciplines d) It can be a loss of favorite activities. e) It can be quiet time, sitting on a chair
quietly, etc. f) It can be a loss of freedoms. g) It can be a postponement of a future
freedom. 7. Correction
can include physical discipline (Pr 22:15; 13:24; 29:15). a) A “rod” (jb,ve shābet cf. tn<[,v.mi mēsheneth -
staff) is a Shepherd’s club, a
warrior’s club, laborer’s instrument. b) A rod was a length of tree limb or bush
stock, employed at first for support or weapon. It was fashioned
distinctively for individual use, straight with a thick end [perhaps very
much like walking sticks or walking canes] or with the shepherd’s crook. (1) It was
used for beating cumin (Isa 28:27,
“club”, the synonymous Heb word for “rod” is hJ'm; mattah), (2) as a weapon (2Sam 23:21, “club”), (3) and as a shepherd's implement either to muster or count sheep (Lev 27:32; Ezek 20:37), (4) In Psa 23:4 it is used
metaphorically of the Lord's protection of his servant as he walks in paths
of righteousness. c) The rod was also used as an instrument for either remedial or
penal punishment. (1) As a corrective instrument it was used for a
slave (Exo 21:20), Ex 21:20 "If a
man strikes his male or female slave with a rod and he dies at his hand, he
shall be punished. (2) It was
suggested for the back of a fool (Pr 10:13; Pr 26:3), (3) It was used for a disobedient child (Pr
13:24; Pr 22:15; Pr 29:15). In Proverbs, the rod was both literal and
figurative as a symbol of discipline. Failure to correct and discipline
children, could actually lead to a son or daughter’s death. (De 21:18-21 cf.
Pr 19:18; 23:13-14). (4) It was used with reference to the Lord’s
righteous King who will smite the wicked with the "rod" of
His mouth (Word) in judgment (Isa 11:4). d) Practical
application of the board of education (1) First explain which rule was broken and remind them of
the discipline. (2) Explain that in order to be a good parent,
you have to obey God and follow through with discipline. (3) Never spank out of uncontrolled anger. Consider praying before spanking.
Limit yourself to a few spanks. (4) The hand is probably the best method of
spanking, though paddles of some sort could be used
for bigger children. (5) Spank children where God has provided the
most padding (seat of the pants). Test your spank on yourself so that you are
not brutal or abusive. (6) Spank with enough pressure for it to be a
future deterrent for the child. (7) Afterward the spanking, hug them and tell
them you still love them. Encourage and reinforce them to comply with correct
behavior, so that this discipline does not have to be
repeated. (8) Teach your child to say, “I was wrong for
_________, would you forgive me?” Verbally assure them of forgiveness. (9) When done correctly, spanking helps
children grow in respect, obedience, and self-control. It is not child abuse.
When done incorrectly, spanking can result in anger and bitterness. It can
harm children emotionally and physically, and may be child abuse. III. OBSERVATIONS AND APPLICATIONS A. Full Quiver: Ps 127:3-5 speaks of the
responsibility of parents raising their children so that they can make an
impact in the world. Children are like arrows, in that they can be sent out to influence the world for God. Blessed is
the man whose quiver is full. B. Next Faithful Spiritual Leader: We do not
know if the Lord will raise up our children to be
the next Billy Graham or Ruth Graham. But the
backbone of the church has always been faithful Christians in the home, in
the church, and in the world, influencing those around them for God. So we must raise our children to be the next faithful
spiritual leaders. C. Straight arrow: Each arrow has its own
particular bend. Each arrow must be shaped and bent
straight so that it will fly true. Children are similar to arrows that
must be corrected and conformed to the image of Christ.
Each child has their own particular bend that must
be wisely and prayerfully corrected. Then they will fly true and make their
mark for God. |
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